What’s with the name “Conflict/Harmony”?
“Conflict/Harmony” speaks to a paradox characterizing society
and polity. Human life, at its most fundamental level, is but a whole—a living,
breathing reflection of the One Source, the singular essence that constitutes
itself by flowing though each of us. Yet, at the phenomenological level,
humanity manifest as millions upon millions of differently inclined individuals
who affiliate into countless groups standing apart from, and often in tension
with, countless other groups. Human beings identify themselves by marking themselves
as “other than.” And otherness is more than an identity marker. Members of
religions, nations, ideologies, ethnicities, and other identity groups see
through eyes distinctive from their neighbors’ eyes. Otherness is a crucial
dimension of experience. To realize our fundamental identity as one with our
neighbor, we must honor rather than ignore or deny our differences from them.
Are humans hopelessly divided among themselves?
Certainly not. Acts of generosity, humility, and
lovingkindness continuously bridge the gaps between us. On a personal,
spiritual level, such acts can occur simply and instantaneously. But on the
level of society and polity, conflicting groups or individuals—as we know all
too well—often resist reconciliation. Although fundamental oneness runs through
all human beings, it may seem inaccessible. Nor should leaders impose the
singularity their constituents may sometimes desire. With good reason, liberal
democracies resist treating their citizens as one. Our differences deserve
recognition. Modern history has demonstrated the horrific results of societies
and polities expecting their members to be as one with the nation, the
religion, or the ideology. When human otherness manifests, as it inevitably does, the
“general will” may seek to excise it like a cancer. However real our
fundamental oneness may be, in matters of politics and society it cannot be
accessed directly without profoundly harming dissenters.
In societies as diverse as the United States, the first step
toward harmony often lies in people approaching other people as profoundly “not
themselves,” irreducible to their own perceptions, beliefs, and preferences. We
must look into the face of the person next to us, or even far away from us, and
acknowledge someone we cannot reduce to ourselves. We must look and listen
carefully to that person and honor what we learn from her or him, without
blithely fitting it into our own pre-existing narrative of “the way things
are.” We must respect that person in the deepest way possible: as legitimate in
her own terms that don't necessarily square with our own.
Herein lies the paradox. By gazing openly into the face of
the other, we feel his apartness from us. And, by remaining receptive
rather than judgmental, we ascertain the common threads that run between us.
Our shared essence, shining through, stirs us. Gazing on another who shares our
humanness affects us more deeply than gazing at ourselves. Much as romantic
relations with another person thrill and satisfy us in a way that
self-satisfaction cannot, so recognizing our commonality with someone different
from us evokes something more profound than when we identify with someone we
assume to be just like us. Sensing our commonality with the other generates
love. We thereby cross the chasm of human difference without obliterating it.
Humbly, we respect the other who differs from us and, most likely, enjoy
her reciprocation. To love is to be open when being closed might seem the
natural thing to be.
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